Today I wanted to write about a recent dating experience I had in the west end of Ottawa. I was driving around a small subdivision in west end Ottawa known for having a bit of a bad rep when it comes to drug dealing, prostitution, gang activity, and other random criminal activity. That said, I was not particularly nervous to be there. I have never felt afraid for my safety anywhere in Canada at any time as a matter of fact. Anyhow, as I was passing through I saw a very pretty girl, on the youngish side, dark brown styled hair, dark complexion, nice body and a giant rack.
I circled the block thinking I would park and get out to approach her as if I was walking down the street to strike up a conversation. However, as I circled back she took a turn to the left and I was hoping she would have turned right. I was running out of options in how to approach her just because of the particular route she chose. I had to think fast and although I was trying to avoid hitting on her from out of my car window - due to the creepiness factor associated with that - I was left with little choice. As I said, generally, I feel that this approach comes of as creepy, and due to the neighbourhood I was in, I felt this would surely be seen as a guy trying to pick up a hooker! But I had no choice so I pulled over, rolled down the window and said “Hey, are you taking the bus? A pretty girl like you should not have to take the bus”. She replied “no, I am not taking the bus”. I said, well why not come for a ride with me? Where are you going? I can take you there”. She refused and explained that she is meeting someone. I persisted and said, “well, hey why don’t you give me your number so we can go out sometime”. She crossed the street and approached my car. She leaned in exposing her ample cleavage spilling out of her halter top and said to me “Well, I am only 18”. I said “oh, and how old do you think I am? I am not that old.” She guessed my age to be 33 and she was not far off. I assured her that I am not quite that old and only check in at 30. She did not appear very interested but she did not leave the side of my car just yet either. I asked her for her name and she told me it was Zahara. I asked again for her phone number and she refused. I suggested that she just give me her e-mail address and we can get to know each other. She liked this idea and as I rifled through my car for a pen and paper she stood over me with a cute smile. I handed her the pen and paper and stared at her massive tits while she wrote out her e-mail for me.
I am always surprised when this approach of just walking up to a women and telling her that she is pretty actually works. I have had luck with this several times over the years but it is not normally my practice. One of my rules however, is to never assume that the chick is too good for you. In fact, I usually approach women that would be considered “out of my league” and like I said I have had a fair bit of success with this approach.
We started chatting via e-mails and she told me all about her teen life at school and how her marks are very good and she is studying hard so that she can attend university next year and start her pursuit of a Medical degree. I learned from what she had told me that she is a very dedicated student and spends much of her time at school, night school and in the library studying. She explained that her family immigrated from the middle east and she is the oldest of her siblings. It was obvious that this girl was independent and strong willed. She was a regular at her local mosque, and religion was obviously an important aspect of her life. It was not long before I discovered that she has a real beautiful soul and I had a feeling that she has real purpose to her life which I am sure will be realized in the future as her years as a doctor. This girl had a great sense of humour and a very realistic outlook on life. She told me that she was dating a guy but it really seemed as though she was not happy with him. Later I learned that she had caught him cheating on her and using cocaine and she had left him. She explained that he was a low-level drug dealer, with a criminal record and no future. This appeared to be her first meaningful relationship and although I think she sensed that this was for the best, she was obviously torn apart inside. Overall, I was very impressed with what I had learned of her, at her young age of 18, I thought that this girl was well beyond her years in both maturity, intelligence and attitude. I am sure that this girl has survived some significant personal struggles along the way and has come out on top only to be stronger than ever. This is the type of girl who will never be held back from what she wants to accomplish!
After over a month of daily e-mails we finally set up a time to meet for coffee. To be safe we were to meet at the shop in the downtown area where lots of traffic is a sure thing. However, I was stood up, big time! I waited patiently for a full hour just in case, but she was an absolute no show. In this scenario, I decided that I would give her another chance because A) she is super hot! B) I was really digging this chick as a person from what I had learned of her through our e-mails. I also figured that she would have a good excuse for missing it. Later, when we were chatting through e-mails she told me that she had a friend who was in crisis and she had to be there for her. I was a little disappointed with her answer, since she did not e-mail me to tell me she could not make it at any point during that day. I thought that the excuse sounded a little made up and wondered if she was too shy to go through with our first date. Either way, I was going to give her a second chance and I did. She had given me her phone number at this point so that we could be sure not to miss each other. However, we could not plan a meeting right away due to our schedules not matching. During this in-between time, I hinted to her there were some things that I really wanted to discuss with her in person. She wanted to know over e-mail but I thought it would be better in person and she agreed to wait for it. We rescheduled our date and this time she showed up right on time. I greeted her with a big hug and bought her a coffee and we found a seat in the shop. Finally, I had some time to get to know this fun, intelligent, unique, funny, beautiful and sexy girl!
She was wearing dress pants and a low cut white shirt revealing not a lot but just enough cleavage to make me wild. Her black silky hair was styled in a sophisticated wave. Her overall look was super sexy and fine! One of her first questions was to ask me what my secret was and she said are you married? Do you have kids? And I like to be as honest as possible, granted in essence I am not honest in this situation but as much as I can be… So I told her that indeed I am married and that I am happily married and not looking for a long term romance per se. She seemed a bit disappointed but explained that she figured that this was the case. I was happy that she figured me out ahead of time but still agreed to meet me. I assumed that this was a good sign that she would be okay with such an arrangement. We spent an hour and a half together getting to know each other in real life! It was fun, I think for both of us. I am not sure what she learned about me, but I learned a lot about her. I was a little bit off in my original assessment. The girl in front of me was very real. She was rough around the edges but in a very good way. For example, she had no fear to talk about sex in blunt terms and yet without being crude. She asked me if I believed in psychics and told me about a psychic that told her that she would one day be a porn star! She told me about her sexual fantasies such as her plan to have “three” one night stands before she is married. And her hope to have a threesome with two guys at some point before marriage. She said that she hopes to make a “sex tape” with someone in her future. She was blunt and open about her past boyfriend the drug dealer and her own experimental drug use with cocaine, and other drugs. We had a very honest and open conversation. We talked about her family and her family life, and they seemed like an important part of who she is. We discussed her hopes and dreams. We talked a bit about her boyfriend and I encouraged her that she had made the right move to leave this gang banger and that she would be doing herself a huge favour to find someone who is truly nice to her for all the right reasons. I knew and admitted that I was not the right guy for this job, but promised that I would treat her respectfully and honestly no matter what, and I meant it. For some reason, this girl continued to really touch me… (sadly, not physically! LOL)
She admitted that she is hesitant about having a relationship with a married man but agreed we could be friends for now and see what comes. I was happy with that, and in fact, I was looking for a friend. Yes, a friend with benefits, but for me an honest and true friendship has to be a part of that for any real satisfaction. I was certain that I could be good friends with this girl. She was going to take the bus home, but I offered to give her a drive home in my car. She seemed a bit hesitant but I must have won her over and convinced her that I am not a bad man and she accepted. We had a pleasant drive back to her neighbourhood and I let her off near her home. She gave me a hug and kiss before leaving. I was again encouraged by the kiss, thinking it was not something I was expecting, but it reinforced my thoughts that she was ok with my situation. I was very very tempted to force it a bit, and to attempt a bigger kiss and to cop a quick feel of her beautiful chest. However, I thought better of it, believing that being a true gentleman would serve best at this time.
Shortly after our meeting, I received an e-mail from her stating that she just is not interested in any kind of relationship with a married man. Ever since meeting this girl I have been crazy for her. I would do anything for some sort of relationship with her and since her denial I have suggested many options for us, some not very polite or respectful. I truly regret these offerings, in that I mean no disrespect to this beautiful person. We exchanged several e-mails since, mostly of me trying to win her over but she remained adamant that she is not interested and had bluntly asked me to stop contacting her. Not being one to give up easily it took a while but I finally, resigned my efforts and stopped contacting her. Secretly, I hope that she keeps my e-mail handy and perhaps contacts me one day in the future with a change of heart.
A very disappointing ending for me this time and I am not sure I could have done much differently. Other than lying about my situation which I refuse to do since I believe that it would jeopardize my marriage much more than being honest about my situation. Not to mention it is just not in my nature to lie, and I am not good at pulling it off for any length of time. This girl is forever in my thoughts, and I wish her all the best.
I am open to any suggestions on how I might have made this turn out differently. I am looking forward to your comments or suggestions. If you have similar personal, experiences please share them! I look forward to hearing from you here on my blog! You can also find me on Facebook, look for me Rod Thicke.
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